I have been setting up my EOL Doula website and while it is not fully functioning I am moving things over and have some information there.
It was funny trying to think of a name for myself and my EOL business - it seemed all the logical and good names where taken already. I just sat tossing names and free associating for over an hour before I hit on Crow - crow - fly - crows soar.... Dumb... ass... Christina *homer simpsons do'h* When my brother died we were at the funeral home getting things set up and it came to deciding what to put on the urn for his ashes. The usual, "RIP," or "forever in our hearts," did not fit my brother at all. I asked if it could wait for the moment and left it at that. Moments after he was cremated we all stepped outside for fresh air and I looked up over the crematory stack and saw several jets pluming as they flew by. From my angle it looked like they flew right through the smoke and I said something like, "Houston we have lift off," to sort of break the horrible grief and sobbing tears. We all laughed but the image of Tommy Soaring Eternally Free stayed with me. I used it in my memorial speech for him and I also asked the funeral home to put that on his Urn. Now I use it whenever I express my condolences to someone who has had a loved one die. It is also how I see myself during my last breath on Earth. Paused on a high cliff in the desert at sunset, waiting to Soar. So please visit Soar Eternally Free for all your End of Life Care Needs and any questions you may have.
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I cannot think of a better day to have completed the first part of my training.
When is this day celebrated? April 20 What is Death Doula Day? The day is set aside for Death Doulas to engage their communities bringing awareness to the profession and benefits for patients and families. An End of Life Doula is a non-medical person trained to care for someone holistically (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) at the end of life. This day is created to raise awareness about the profession of Death Doulas and how they can benefit patients and families at end of life. Death Doulas provide the additional support that families need in order to feel comfortable with taking care of their dying loved one at home. They are non-medical professionals that provide holistic support for the dying and their loved ones before, during, and after death. Trained in the various end of life stages, a Doula is able to assist the family with understanding the natural processes while providing comfort and support. This is the day where all Death Doulas can rise together and be a voice for social change at end of life, ensuring everyone has he most positive passing possible. How should this day be celebrated or observed? On Death Doula Day we encourage the conversation about the profession of Death Doulas. This can be done anywhere in anyway. Have fun with it! Post/tweet/market/share, have a discussion panel, show a documentary, give a training, host a Death Café – Anything to do with end of life. I am in the process of creating a website for my End of Life Care business, Soar Eternally Free. I do already have an Instagram site soar_eternally_free but need to get the website logistics in order.
In the meantime I am always available here to answer any questions you may have concerning end of life care planning. A little about myself: I am an INELDA trained End of Life Doula. I came to this work after the death of my brother and realized it would have been so much easier had we had someone to help walk us through the steps of death care while we were in a fog of disbelief and mourning. I plan on specializing in Sudden or Unexpected Deaths. My brother committed suicide and I know how devastating this situation is and how trying to navigate everything on your own can be almost impossible. I also realized that too many people are underserved and should not have to die alone. I can help with advanced care planning - including advanced directives, vigil planning (how you want your last days to look and feel and sound like) and what medical treatments you may or may not want. I can also help with Legacy projects -a great way to help you and your loved ones create a lasting memory of your legacy for future generations. I also provide after-death grief work/reprocessing to the loved ones - this helps provide closure and a safe place to start the grief process. It's been awhile now since I have learned about The Good Death, Death Doula/Midwifery and helping others to learn more about end of life care and the CHOICES they have. Also, that people should not have to deal with these things alone.
I wasn't sure what to do about it, other than read everything I could and it was right around February 2020 that I was looking into certification in a doula program. Then Covid hit and everything collapsed and I stopped thinking about anything for awhile. But, now more than ever, we need this information and after a series of very powerful dreams, I realized, this is what I am here to do. I think of myself more as a pyschopomp but they all mean the same. There are choices we have at the end of our lives and we shouldn't ever be told we have to do things a certain way. I want to help both the dying but also their friends and families to understand all their choices and make sure they have the information they need. They should never be in fear and they should have dignity and full understanding of what is happening. This blog section will be where I store my information/links/books/ stuff I have in my head, so that I can organize it and share it with anyone who needs it. |
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